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India



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Hindus most important gods:



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Indian-weddings (This is my topic but I will also be talking about marriages. You need to be married to have a wedding!) 

= Before wiki questions :=
 * 1) = Why do they have that fancy design on there hands? =
 * 2) = Why are Indian weddings so big? =
 * 3) = What are some similarities and difference between Hindu and American marriages? =

( These questions are answered at the bottom of this page!)
Want to know more? Read the information below! :) enjoy!

• In many of the Hindu marriages, there is a wedding ritual in which the sisters of the bride hide the shoes of their brother-in-law (jija ji) and return them only in exchange for money. It's a very fun filled and enjoying ritual.
 * Here are few very interesting facts about various kinds of Indian Weddings:**

• In some communities, there are rituals where the hands of the couple are covered with a sacred cloth to ward off ill omen and evil eye during the pheras.

• In Parsee marriage ceremonies, the sisters-in-law take gifts from their brother-in-law during the ritual of Haath Boravanu where the groom puts his hand in water and cannot remove them until he pays money to them, Pag Dhovanu is another such ritual where the groom is threatened with milk on his shoes and chero chorvanu is a ritual in which seven strands of thread tying the couple are removed on payment.

• In Gujarati custom the groom's mother-in-law tries to catch his nose on arrival of the baraat, as a reminder of the fact that he is taking away their daughter and is now responsible for her happiness.

• Aeki-Beki is also very fun filled rituals among the Gujarati community. A tray or pot of water is mixed with milk and vermillion. A ring and a few coins are thrown into the mixture. The bride and groom are given seven chances to fish out the ring. The winner is considered as having a dominating personality and it is predicted amidst much laughter that he or she will rule the roost!

• In Punjabi custom the brides wear a Chuda (A traditional set of Bangles). This is a set of red and ivory bangles gifted by bride’s maternal uncle. This custom is considered good omen for the bride as it is said to bring good luck to the bride in her new home.

• Punjabi brides wear Kaleeres (pronounced as ka-lee-ray). These are silver or gold plated ornaments tied to the Chudas. It is said that the bride has as many friends as there are leaves in the Kaleere. One interesting ritual related with the Kaleere is the custom in which a bride shakes her Kaleere over the unmarried girls in her family. It is said that if the Kaleere falls on the head of any of them, she is the next one to be married.

• Another ritual which is found in almost every community is when the groom brings home his new bride; the groom's sisters block the entrance to the home and demand money from their brother as a shagun before they let him in. This is a fun filled and amusing ritual. = This was taking from indiamarks.com Feb.14.2011 <3 =

Indian wedding-women dresses



Indian wedding-women

Indian wedding-Ceremony Usually the room that Indian people get married in looks a little like the picture below.

Indian wedding-Facts [] (The facts below were taking from the website above. ^)


 * In many communities in the Hindu Religion, there is a wedding ritual in which the sisters-in-law hide the shoes of their jija or brother-in-law and return them only in exchange for money. It's a very fun filled and enjoying ritual.
 * In some communities, there are rituals where the hands of the couple are covered with a sacred cloth to ward off ill omen and evil eye during the pheras.
 * In Parsee marriage ceremonies, the sisters-in-law take gifts from their brother-in-law during the ritual of Haath Boravanu where the groom puts his hand in water and cannot remove them until he pays money to them, Pag Dhovanu is another such ritual where the groom is threatened with milk on his shoes and chero chorvanu is a ritual in which seven strands of thread tying the couple are removed on payment.
 * In Gujarati custom the groom's [|mother]-in-law tries to catch his nose on arrival of the baraat, as a reminder of the fact that he is taking away their daughter and is now responsible for her happiness.
 * Aeki-Beki is also very fun filled rituals among the Gujarati community. A tray or pot of water is mixed with milk and vermillion. A ring and a few coins are thrown into the mixture. The bride and groom are given seven chances to fish out the ring. The winner is considered as having a dominating personality and it is predicted amidst much laughter that he or she will rule the roost!
 * In Punjabi custom the bride's wear a Chuda, this is a set of red and ivory bangles by her maternal uncle. This custom is considered good omen for the bride as it is said to bring good luck to the bride in her new home.
 * Punjabi brides wear Kaleeres. These are silver or gold plated ornaments tied to the Chudas. It is said that the bride has as many friends as there are leaves in the Kaleere. One interesting ritual related with the Kaleere is the custom in which a bride shakes her Kaleere over the unmarried girls in her family. It is said that if the Kaleere falls on the head of any of them, she is the next one to be married.
 * Another ritual which is found in almost every community is when the groom brings home his new bride; the groom's sisters block the entrance to the home and demand money from their brother as a shagun before they let him in. This is a fun filled and amusing ritual.

= Dance- =

Indian grooms wear a sherwani.

They have elaborate clothing. They also have a scarf that they carry around.

= Wedding invitations! = The picture below are two examples of Indian wedding invitations. Not all of the invitations look like this. They may also have their invitation on a scroll.





//Arranged Marriages India //

What's arranged Marriage ?

Arrange marriage is when your parents pick a wo/men for you.

How do they decide on who the person will be?

Well they do a back round check. Some things they might check is:
 * Virgin? (Women)
 * Respectful behavior? (Women and Men)
 * Will they make good wives (Women)
 * Will they make good husbands? (Men)
 * Will they make good father?(Men)
 * Do they want kids? (Women and kids)
 * Are they on diets? (Women and Men)
 * Does she want to stay home after marriage? (Women)
 * Is the women well Cared for? (Women)
 * Does the family have a good reputation ? (Women)
 * Do they have a big house (Women)
 * What caste are they in?

Facts on arranged marriages.


 * 1) Arranged marriages can also be changed if they don't want to get married.
 * 2) They don't meet each other until the day of the wedding.
 * 3) But sometimes you can talk to your spouse but a guardian has to be watching you.
 * 4) Some parts of India still have arranged marriages.
 * 5) Arranged marriage is decreasing in some places but is still strong.
 * 6) It's likely that the two will not click.
 * 7) The parents think it's an act of love



For more interesting stuff go to this website->[|http://www.pardesiservices.com/tradition/arrangedmarg.asp]

Did you know.....[|http://weddings.iloveindia.com/indian-weddings/marriage-laws-in-india.html]

// Arranged marriage for children //



Child marriage was custom in Indian;Children can get married before they even hit puberty. What's the purpose?


 * Was to prevent children from seeking by themselves (when they are adults) somebody from a way lower caste.
 * It was also so that children wouldn't marry outside their social class and outside their race.

Arranged marriages is basically devolved to promote racism and classicism.

What happens if the child decides to pick their own mate?
 * Parents threaten them
 * 1) they won't give them money
 * 2) they won't share anything
 * 3) drive them out of their homes
 * So they basically accept who there parents had chose.

Curses? What curses?
 * Dowry
 * The parents must negotiate the amount of dowry which is to be paid by the bride's family to the groom's family.
 * Poor families don't do good with this trade. so they remain unmarried. :(
 * If the dowry is not given a due date the wife can have serious problems.
 * 1) She could die in an "accident"
 * 2) Could be abused
 * 3) Could be kicked out

Any other problems?
 * They will never meet each other before the marriage.
 * They may get to see each other 2-3 times.
 * That will only happen if someone is there (like i said before).

=**Catholic disagree with child marriages!!**=


 * BUT NOW CHILD MARRIAGE IS ILLEGAL..IN SOME PLACES.**



= Why is marriage important to society? =


 * s ome people think that if a household has a father and mother and child then they are the building block of society.
 * 1) There children are well behaved
 * 2) Their children know more about relationships
 * 3) Their children know what is expected for them in society
 * 4) Their children become citizens
 * 5) More advantages
 * Most people say that a single-parents family ISN'T a real family.
 * 1) Not proper
 * 2) Can't function
 * 3) Less advantages
 * 4) They don't really have structure
 * 5) They can't do things that they are supposed to do

What is that thing that Indians wear on their forehead?

It's called Bindi

They are worn by Hindus and they symbolize the importance and worship of intellect, and are to stimulate the third eye, when placed between the eyes.

Bindis are usually worn by religious men and married women. The look and color of them will depend on their beliefs as individuals, or which sect they are from, and what occasion it is. Vaishnavists usually wear vertical lines, where Shaivites usually wear horizontal lines, but, depending on their customs, all may wear a sort of "smear" of sandalwood, vermillion, or another colorful powder, when they have visited someone who wishes to give them a sort of a spiritual gift.

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= Before wiki questions :=
 * 1) = Why do they have that fancy design on there hands? =
 * 2) = Why are Indian weddings so big? =
 * 3) = What are some similarities and difference between Hindu and American marriages? =

= Why do they have that fancy design on there hands? = The fancy design on their hands is called henna. It is also known as Mehndi. Henna is a type of body art from India that is usually used in weddings. (But it can also be used in other rituals.) Whats the point of henna? It's supposed to bring good luck and is supposed to be sacred. It's done on hands, arms and feet. But in America it's just to decorate your body! How does it work? Answers.yahoo.com
 * Squeeze the brown paint like paste on your skin (Can be any shape or pattern)
 * Let it say for 24 hours (Don't touch!)
 * The brown stuff will fall off (naturally)
 * The brown image on the skin will last for a couple of weeks
 * The longer you leave the paint on the longer and darker it will last!

= Why are Indian weddings so big? = It's supposed to be tradition to invite everyone you know! (No that doesn't mean the mailman too!) It means your family and friends! (If the mailman is your friend THEN you can invite him!) Also you may send and invitation to someone and they will tell everyone they know. Also you might send an invitation to a house and everyone that lives there decides to go!

The government thinks Indian weddings are too big!! Read more below!

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 * The entire website gives information on news, sports, culture, business, money, life & style, travel, environment, blogs,data, mobile, offers, jobs. It gives information about the world. (It is a newspaper in england)
 * The author of the passage is:[|Jason Burke] in Delhi. He is the south Asia person of the Guardian. He has writtein teo books.

What are some similarities and difference between Hindu and American marriages??
Some Differences: Why? They believe that if the mothers aren't there that it will protect them from the evil eye.
 * In Hindu weddings the groom's mother doesn't attend.
 * In Hindu weddings the bride's mother also doesn't attend.
 * As the groom arrives he is welcomed by ringing bells, blowing conch shells and ululation.
 * The mistress of the house touches a silver plate to the groom's forehead and then the ground, and then up to the groom. This is happens three times, the groom is then offered sweets. Water is then poured on the doorstep of the house as the groom enters.
 * The priest comes in with an idol of God and in the presence of the family and friends the ceremony begins.
 * There is an exchange of the floral garlands and other rituals.
 * Dinner is then served during the ceremony.
 * After the ceremony is over, games are played.
 * The couple is kept awake that night by poetry, songs and jokes offered by the family and friends.
 * Not arranged in the U.S.
 * Maid of honor throws bride a bridal shower.

Some similarities:
 * They are both very large.
 * Both may have a professional wedding planner.
 * May be held in a church.
 * Held by a religious person or leader.
 * They say vows.

Well in India some marriages are arranged. While in America that isn't the case. Marriages in America happen when two people fall in "love". In Hindu marriages the parents of the bride and groom don't attend. This is also isn't the case in American traditions.The parents DO attend. They probably wouldn't attend if they have something REALLY serious going on. But they are also similar. They weddings are very large in size. Also they have a religious leader with them at the alter at the ceremony.

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 * This website gives information about U.S. weddings traditions and U.S. customs. It also gives information about other countries and their traditions and customs.
 * There is no specific author! But it says it was copyrighted in 2001.I know this information is trustworthy because it has links to the cites it got it form!

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 * This website gives information about different kinds of weddings. It is also a store. It's basically like a wedding planner for all different kinds of cultures.
 * The author of this passage is Lois Pearce.
 * Lois Pearce is an expert at tradition, culture, and etiquette questions. She is a master bridal consultant. Her specialty is in weddings with the couple's heritage. She serves brides in the New York area. She has wrote a book "The Ethnic and Specialty Wedding Guide".You can email her at lois@weddingdetails.com. ... []
 * The link above is by Lois Pearce. It is here own website! Check it out if you want (But it's not apart of my links to find information!)

Other Fun Stuff !

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=Authors note:= I really don't like big chucks of colorful texts. I'm sorry if my page doesn't really "appeal to the eye". It gives me headaches, but I tried. Also the chucks of text that are highlighted ARE NOT supposed to be colored ON PURPOSE. It draws back attention from the most important parts!

Is my page confusing? If yes let me explain.
Well my topic is Indian Weddings! But the information at the top that has pictures of India is just a picture of India so they know wear they are! Also the Hindu gods are VERY important because I talk about Hindu weddings and their customs!

Why do I talk about marriages?
I talk about marriages because you need to get married to have a wedding! Also India is a completely different place than America. So if I looked at this page and only saw information about marriages, I would infer that the marriages are just the same as American marriages. Which they aren't! So i think it is essential to know about the marriages if you are talking about a different custom.

Monday February 14 2011 by Nyoka I love the slide under the slide area. I love it because it shows about of area things about India.I also like it because it is very colorful and I learned a lot.

Tuesday, February 15, 2011 by Ms. Fleming Shaiane, Your page is very thorough! I love how you incorporated what you learned about arranged marriages into your page. Make sure you go back and edit for spelling mistakes so your page looks more professional. Keep up the commitment and the hard work. It is very impressive!

February 15, 2011 by Taikelah I really like the way you have lots of nice pictures on here. Also, that your page is not boring and i fun to look at.

Tuesday, February 15 2011 by Kemmly I really like your page, you have a lot of details and it's really colorful. :)

O2.15.11

Im In Love and in Awww with your page Shaiane. Its colorful. What a Great Start ! -Aryanna

O2.15.11

Im so jealous!!. Your page is 10 times better than mine.. Ergh!!!. Help !!? -Aryanna

February 17, 2011 by Kyania I like all of your pictures and facts. I like them because it gives a lot of information and i learned a lot about arrange marrages from your page. My favorite picture was the one when it was the picture of the the women and guy sitting in a carrage and you said " Don't they look happy.... NOT". I really like your page.

WOOOW Shaiane!!! ** Your page is absolutely amazing!! ** It's filled with so many great facts and your pictures are really great! Also, I really like the picture with the chain about arranged marriages it's really cool!! Bianca C. Feb. 17th, 2011

Thursday February 17, 2011 By Jesus Robles Garcia

This page is INCREDIBLE. You have so much information on this page, and i love the .gif pictures. Keep it up. Excellent work.

Tuesday February 22,2010 by Shaiane Murphy Thanks guys for all the positive feed back. I'm really stuck what else should i add?

Monday March,72011 I typically don't really like colorful chucks of texts. They make my eyes hurt! Also the chucks of texts that have highlighted stuff aren't supposed to be colored on purpose. It draws back attention to the important part. Just saying. -Shaiane M.